You can understand why choosing a copy editor is not a decision that authors take lightly. Good copy editors are so much more than a fresh pair of eyes; they are your guides, helping you along the road to publication. It can be heart-wrenching giving your novel to an editor; imagine how parents feel when their son or daughter leaves for school or university! But the important thing to remember is that the copy editor will have yours and your work's best interests at heart. All they want is for your novel to succeed.
I actually believe that the author/editor relationship is more like a close friendship. Editing can be stressful and even isolating; how do you explain the pressure of making sure each word is perfect, or tidying up the paragraphs, to someone who knows nothing about writing a 70 000 word novel? Having someone to work with on this difficult step of the publication process is so liberating, especially if they love the novel as much as you do.
Close friends always support each other. Growing up, and even writing Heartbound, my friends were a constant source of inspiration. Having someone by your side, shouldering the difficulties that editing presents, can help you overcome those issues.
Most of all, friends have fun! Editing is no different; yes, it is a difficult process, but it can be an enjoyable one too. Every time someone asks me a question about Heartbound, I can't help but smile; authors love talking about their work, so having an editor - a friend - who shares that same passion, and has a genuine interest in what you're writing, can make the editing process more pleasant.
So is the author/editor relationship more like a marriage or more like a friendship? I'll leave you to make up your own mind! What is beyond any doubt is that it should be a happy and prosperous relationship.